Blind spot
… hides our self-perception.
Our blind spot is shaped by prejudices, habits, and preferences. We do not see him; we usually do not know him either. He is invisible, sometimes blurry, but not tangible for us.
Others see it often. For them, our blind spot is almost a treasure trove 😉
Because the others see in my blind spot things that I have never noticed before.
Example:
Our counterpart says to us: „Today you talk like your mother“ … or father …
We are mostly shocked. What, I beg your pardon, that cannot be true! Is mostly our reaction to it. But when we give ourselves time to think about it, we may have noticed it before. But we paid no attention to this finding. We caught ourselves but are so caught up in our emotional mesh that we do not want to admit it.
Now that happens again and again. We keep hearing this sentence: „You talk and act like your father“ … that has also something to do with our own perception. 😕
We do not like that at all. If, contrary to all our own wishes and expectations, we may have adopted exactly this behavior, which we did not want at all.
If we allow it, your counterpart will manage to „open your eyes“. That means we now get the chance to think about ourselves and to meet at eye level.
Why should your blind spot get smaller!
As soon as you start thinking about yourself, you reinvent yourself! You become aware of how you affect other people and what triggers it.
Unfortunately, it is often not as easy as in the example above. Because the feedback from your surroundings is mostly non-verbal. So maybe you see …
- rolling eyes
- contorting eyes
- shaking head
- nod
- a turning away
- …
These are all signals that are excitingly often based on the prejudices of your counterpart, i.e. their own blind spot 😉
You do the same!
When your counterpart behaves as your father may have done in the past. Then it depends on what your memories are like. For example, if you are annoyed by it, your eyes may roll, or you may turn away. If it is a positive memory, then you are most likely to beam at your counterpart.
Your blind spot helps you ...
- To get to know yourself better
- also, that you become stronger when you become more aware of yourself
- to work on making some things better
- to recognize what you are already doing well
All in all, in the end it helps you to get to know yourself better!
This strengthens you, the relationships with your environment, your communication skills and lets you become more open.
